One of the most common pieces of advice we give about dating of any kind typically involves talking less. This is mainly due to the fact that when most of us get stressed, we end up rambling on about nothing instead of actually producing something worth talking about. Then, just learning when to stop can be the difference between having a good night, and spending it comparing married fling website reviews until sunrise. Sometimes, however, verbal diarrhea can also be solved by some simple pruning that helps make the story more interesting. This is great for people who have gone as far as they can with trying to keep their mouths such outside of encouraging her to share more information about herself, or for those of us who tend to prefer shier women. Impressing someone with a good story can turn a guy from a decent date into a captivating person to be around, which will always make women more interested in hooking up right then and in the future.
Have a Point
When it comes to telling a story, the most important thing to keep in mind is that you really need to have a point. That does not mean the story needs to have a moral or anything of that sort, rather we mean that it needs to be relevant and that there was a point to sharing it in the first place. Any guy in Manchester can talk about their daily commute. Telling her about the common trials and tribulations of your daily commute by emphasizing the ridiculousness of it all after she makes a comment about work, however, is going to be much better received. Essentially, you need to know what is similar enough to what you are already talking about. Fortunately, most of the time, the entire reason we want to bring up the story in the first place is because something one of you said or did reminded you of it, so there’s a pretty good chance it is related just because you want to share it. That does not, however, mean whatever you want to say is completely relevant. If the crux of her comment about work has to do with the company goldfish the secretary keeps on her desk, then talking about your morning commute, while related, is not going to be relevant to the conversation.
Learning to take a step back and ask why you want to share this story or interrupt the one she is telling is hard. Any time you are trying to slow down split second processes based on habits that are decades in the making, you can definitely expect that things are not going to change the moment you want them to. This is something that takes a bit of practicing to really get a feel for, so don’t get discouraged the first time it really takes you a while to just teach yourself to pause. Conversational skills are hard to develop, let alone change, and you may find some benefit to asking a bud to help you out, if you suspect that women are leaving you at the table on your own because they got tired of the sound of your voice. Your might have a million great stories to share, but if you don’t know when to hand out that sort of anecdote, chances you’ll be spending the night with married fling website reviews again. In case, you end up back online, try looking up cougar dating. Browse through marriedflingsguide.co.uk/site-list-ratings/ to read some British married fling site reviews and check site listings for cougar dating. Things might turn out differently when you are dating a cougar!
Stick to the Humorous and Amazing
Another common factor to verbal diarrhea is the inability to figure out what is worth sharing and what is just plain boring or inappropriate. This leads people to the idea that nothing they say is going to be worthwhile, and so it might be better to just back off entirely. While saying a lot less is often the better approach, being able to share your experiences is as well. That is why learning to narrow down your choices to be just as useful as learning how to deliver the stories themselves. Fortunately, when you are talking primarily about sharing stories with dates, or in public venues, the only two categories you need to really pay any attention to are the ones that meet one of two specifications: it’s funny, or it’s just plain crazy. More or less anything else is going to be extraneous and therefore pointless to tell. Unless she knows you, it’s going to be difficult to impossible for her to really connect with any other story. Comparatively, a tale built on the amazing – such as recounting a ridiculous experience running a marathon when you clearly weren’t ready for it, requires very little empathy on behalf of your audience.
Show, Don’t Tell
Now that you have whittled down the stories you want to tell to the handful of relevant humorous or awe inspiring anecdotes available, it’s time to make good on the delivery. If you think this section title seems familiar, by the way, that is because we are crossing the line between knowing how to write and knowing how to date. When it comes right down to it, knowing how to tell a good story is really no different than learning how to write one, after all. The only major difference is the method you are using to recount the events. That is why the same advice of describing things instead of just relating exactly what happened is still useful here.
In general use, this suggestion has a lot more to do with setting the scene and providing commentary on internal monologues and the like. What we mean in particular is taking the time to describe how things looked, the smells, the sounds, and the like. You don’t talk about blowing your rotator cuff on an obstacle course you had no business running. You explain the process of convincing you to try. You set the stage for the action of your tale by explaining how everything looked at the beginning, the sounds of people milling about the starting line and how it all affected your mood going in. These sorts of things are going to be what ultimately separates you from any other bloke in Manchester: not the voracity of your tales.
Only Keep in the Important Parts
Of course, no matter how important it is to set the scene and extrapolate on the sounds and smells of the world around you, there is no reason to embellish either. Waxing flowery in your descriptions of the crowd when your story is about the game, for example, is a good way to put your date to sleep. If you really want to avoid another night spent comparing married fling website reviews instead of having some fun on the side, it’s time to up your game. Figure out what the most important part of the tale is, and the point of telling it. Then, only include descriptions, people, and events that all lead back to the major themes. For example: if listening to her reminded you of a hilarious game of basketball you played back in high school because she was recounting a terrible but humorous mistake she had made back then, you would want to focus on the timeframe for similarity and why it is so funny for effect.